Bullying Awareness
Stand Up to Put Downs


Why is everyone talking about Bullying?

Bullying is not a new activity. What is new is our attitude towards bullying. Gone are the days that we excuse bullying with passing comments such as “kids will be kids” and “everyone gets bullied, it makes you tough.” The truth is the effects of bullying have lasting consequences for the bully, the victim and the bystanders who don’t speak up.

What is Bullying?

Bullying is not an argument or a one-time occurrence. Bullying is repeated attempts by the aggressor to use power and control to intimidate someone else. They may use one or more of the following tactics to bully another.

  • Physical – hitting, punching, kicking
  • Emotional – name calling, rumor spreading
  • Psychological – premeditated acts to embarrass or harass others like faking an online Facebook account to gain access to someone and expose their personal information
  • Cyber – threats, harassment or humiliation aimed at a target using the internet, cell phone or other technology
  • Sexual – using sexuality or gender as a weapon to threaten, harass or tease

Possible Signs a Child is Being Bullied:

  • Unexplained injuries
  • Frequent headaches, stomachaches, feeling sick
  • Changes in eating habits
  • Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
  • Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork or not wanting to go to school
  • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
  • Self-destructive behaviors, harming themselves, talking about suicide
  • Appears to be angry, depressed or frustrated after going online
  • Desires to spend more time with parents rather than peers
  • Becomes unusually secretive, especially when it comes to online activities
  • Note: These could also be signs of substance abuse, child abuse or sexual abuse

The “Bully”

  • Bullies often are bullied so they bully others for power and control because they need others’ approval.
  • Boys and girls bully differently. Boys’ abuse is more physical and girls tend to abuse emotionally or psychologically.
  • Bullying is a gateway behavior often leading to crime. A study found 60 percent of boys whom researchers classified as bullies in grades six to nine were convicted of at least one crime by the age of 24, while 40 percent had three or more convictions.
  • If your child is reported as a bully, early intervention to address anger or self-esteem issues can prevent a lifetime of anti-social behavior.

Bystanders: Actions You Can Take

  • Speak up: if it is safe, tell the bully to stop
  • Ask the victim to walk away with you
  • Tell a parent or other trusted adult, get help
  • Recruit some of your other friends to join in supporting the victim

What not to do:

  • Do not encourage the bully
  • Do not try to fight or engage in physical contact with the bully
  • Do not laugh or joke about the bullying incident
  • Do not take pictures or videos, unless your sole intention is to show the video to a teacher or parent
  • Never post embarrassing photos or videos of a bullying incident on the internet, or share them with anyone, other than a parent or teacher
  • Do not remain silent about bullying

Criminal Behavior and Reporting

  • If you, or someone you know, are the victim of a threat, assault, theft, stalking or harassment, report it to the police
  • Don’t overreact or blame your child when he or she reaches out to you
  • Encourage your child to share his or her story
  • Police officers will ask for any evidence, dates, times, witnesses, evidence from computer or phone
  • Save screenshots, emails, text messages
  • Keep a record of incidents, whom you spoke to and any actions taken

Prevention Suggestions

  • Have the conversation with your child early – explain bullying
  • Does he or she know someone being bullied; ask what they would do if they notice bullying
  • Know the websites your children visit and their online activities
  • Talk about being safe online and be smart about what they post online
  • Install parental control filtering software
  • Secure your child’s electronic devices overnight

Local Resources

notMYkid

Information on bullying, internet safety and other youth-related issues.
602-652-0163

Visit the notMYkid Website

Casa Center for Positive Social Change

“The Power of YOU” is a school-based bullying prevention program that targets the roots of bullying, abuse and violence by boosting core emotional intelligence competencies in children, youth and the important adults in their lives.
602-254-6400

Visit the Casa Website

Teen Lifeline

Peer counseling, suicide hotline, bullying prevention curriculum.
602-248-TEEN

Visit the Teen Lifeline Website

The Be O.N.E. (Open to New Experiences) Project

An interactive four-hour presentation designed for middle school students (grades 5-8) that harnesses the power of positive peer pressure to create an inclusive and positive school environment.

Visit the Be O.N.E. Website

National Resources

SafeSchools Alert

Online incident reporting and tracking system.

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StopBullying.gov

Great resources for everything “Bully”.

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National Crime Prevention Council - Bullying

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Teens Against Bullying (National Bullying Prevention Center)

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NetSmartz

A program of the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children

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American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

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American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

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Teens Against Bullying (National Bullying Prevention Center)

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NetSmartz

a program of the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children

Visit the Website